Scary Close

After years of writing about faith and meaning, Donald Miller realized he had a blind spot: he was terrible at intimacy. Scary Close is his candid account of dating, courtship, and eventually marriage, told against the backdrop of therapy sessions where he confronted the defense mechanisms — performing, pretending, controlling — that kept people at arm's length.

Part memoir, part relationship guide, the book uses Miller's own missteps and breakthroughs to argue that real connection requires dropping the act most people mistake for charm.